In Memory of My Brother Tom Losito
As we all gathered in the memory of Tom, so that together we could acknowledge and share both our joy in the gift that his life was to us, and the pain that his passing brings. In sharing the joy and the pain together today, hopefully it will lessen the pain and remember more clearly the joy.
Tom was very close to all of us. Growing up with Tom, as a brother wasn’t always easy for us. He would pick and tease on us, but let anyone else even look at us funny, and Tom would be on our side, and everyone beware of whatever may come next. As a construction worker Tom worked hard to provide for his family. He was a foreman, but he got in and worked hard with his co-workers, just as hard if not harder than them and they respected him highly because of his work ethic.
He helped take care of his Mom and Dad, as they became older, he helped with their house maintenance and was very dedicated to helping me with their health care, in last year's of their life.
He loved to fish when he was growing up with me and our Dad, and many others. We took many spur of the moment road trips together with some of our cousins, on a whim, sometimes with no particular destination, but it was always an exciting adventure. There are a lot of stories about us growing up that I will cherish forever. He always looked out for me and was always ready to lend a hand without me ever asking him to, all his life.
Many of you will recall Tom's garden. He enjoyed working in his garden and enjoyed sharing his produce with his family. Tom was a warm friendly man who made his mark in the world not with grand gestures or fancy titles, but by the basic goodness and generosity of his character.
There were many wonderful aspects to Tom's life, and many ways that he touched our lives. He will be remembered as a wonderful brother, husband, father, grandfather, a great friend, a caring uncle, and loving relative to all his family. In all these ways and more, he made our lives richer and fuller. Now that he has passed away, of course there is emptiness and pain, confusion and maybe even anger at death coming to a man of only 70 years, but in many ways, the gift of Tom's life is still here with us. He lives on in our memories and stories, and in what all of us have become because of him. So I ask everyone to share –today, tomorrow and in the years to come - your memories and stories, and to share the pain of your loss as well. In this way we will keep the gift of Tom's life alive.
I will miss my brother everyday, as we saw each other often and talked on the phone for hours at a time. He was not only my brother, he was my BEST FRIEND!
REST IN PEACE BROTHER - I will always love you and cherish your memory forever.
Carmen Losito